Friends, How Many of Us Really Have Them?
Namaste, Y'all,
So this happened recently: I reached the end of the rope regarding two relationships; one was a reconnection from my college days, and the other was someone who I formed a bond with over the past couple of years. Both have similar dynamics and solid bases for me to walk away from, leaving me to rethink my approach in setting and executing boundaries in my partnerships/unions moving forward. Sympathy played a major part in both of these endings; mine, not theirs, although there was a lack of it with them in key areas that rubbed me the wrong way. I know one thing for certain, and that is I will not stick around and wait for someone to shift into a space that is never going to happen. They taught me that meeting people where they are is far more important than where I want them to be and to honor their truth. Realizing their authentic behavior is what it is actually gave me the sign that led to the exit door. My overgiving, sharing, and caring characteristics need to be healed and brought back into balance (reined in and used with discernment).
They taught me about being stuck in negative cycles and defending an identity that no longer suits me (rescuing the fake drowner) and the importance of paying attention to what's not being said and more of what's being done in all of my relationships.
We have our personal perceptions on life and the socially programmed projections from our childhood environment and the media. Both are filled with faulty conceptions and egocentric mindsets designed to disempower the individual from freely integrating with others. This is seen clearly in our misconceptions about those who look and move differently from us. We greet them with a limited outlook and delusional expectations that leave us upset when we find commonality that defies the spoon-fed false narrative we've been ingesting from the get-go. I want to see the best in others but am realizing that's a false expectation. Some folks are simply here to remind us how not to be and nothing more. Being raised in a dogma-filled religious community really impacted my empathy, which was already high to begin with. Having years of victimhood, shaming, and other negative projections in the illusion of love will wreck your ability to set and maintain healthy emotional boundaries. Yes, I am kind, but I also have been embracing shifting the old mindset that has ruled most of my life. And these recent events have given me pause to be in a state of compassion and forgiveness for myself. I did my best, but the results sucked—to a point.
The point is I learned more about who I am and what I am not, and that though I was disappointed, it was a lesson learned. That has added major value to my current remaining relationships (appreciating and honoring their authenticity) and the importance of being present. I'm reminded of the Four of Cups card in the tarot, whose message is a warning to pay attention to the company you keep and not to grow comfortable in their energy, or you can end up being bitterly disappointed. We can't be asleep at the wheel when interacting with others because life is ever shifting our paths and changing our perceptions. Here's why some of us lose our attraction emotionally, mentally, spiritually,
and even physically in some cases. Life is about growth through our personal interactions and learning key lessons to not repeat in our evolution. We have only ourselves to blame when we get stuck in cycles of misery. Here's why it's imperative to focus on the present and not a past version of ourselves (or others) that no longer exists in any way, shape, or form. It's futile attempting to be something that is no longer valid just because you want to feel good about yourself.
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Love, Light, and Happy Healing,
Terry P., Founder @TrinityReadingsandHealings.com
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